Destiny of Love by Er. Satnam Singh Sidhu BC

Forgive, Forget and Let Go....... 

Is it easy for us to let go someone who hurt us the most?

Not without full torture on him/her in our mental movie of thoughts which sometimes play for rest of our life without any intermission!!!!!

Those of us who have courage to ask and make things clear, have good chances of forgiving others.

Those of us who don't have courage to confront, like to enjoy the mental movie of resentment and grudge for rest of their life. 

Those of us who have courage to ask and ability to put ourselves in others' shoes to understand their side of story, enable us to let go the negative feelings and embrace our friends close to our heart.

Life is short. Life is about love to others. Life is about sharing with friends.Life is like clay weblogs like water and hands like friends. Let friends feel your softness and care for them. Don't be like a hard rock or burning coal to your friends. 

Life has no meaning without friends. Don't be absorbed in status or material and force yourself to love others until it becomes your habit.

It hurts when we hurt our friends and defending ourself with false ego, makes friends further apart. 

Don't let it happen to you anymore. Our ego makes us apart. Our ego have no place in our heart and soul. 

Let's push or pull it out of our heart and mind before it is too late.

Love for everyone is a bliss and ego a curse. 

Ego make our lives miserable and others. Put efforts to love your friends by letting go any negative feelings and call every friend this summer right from childhood til now. 

Forgive any negative feelings and call anyone you have hard feelings for. 

It is hard to feel like that way but believe me push your ego to the side for a moment and call everyone you had negative feelings for whether you feel guilty of hurting others or otherd hurt you.

Don't say anything except: I am sorry that I stopped communicating with you because of my stupid feelings about that incident.

I simply called to apologize for that. I just want you to forgive me for my stupid feelings and thoughts about every thing. 

I like to be friends again with you for rest of my life.

I am very content with my life and my family and my work and all of my friends and I can not let my ego to further jeopardize our friendship.

I have realized that how important it is to be in peace and I can not attain it unless I get rid off all my negative feelings about my friends and my past.

I want peace in my life and I want all my friends to have peace. That is why I called you so that we both can let go that past misunderstandings and stupidity. 

Can I expect you to forgive me and be friends with me once again so that we can enjoy our friendship.

I was stupid enough to let my ego overpower me and destroy my real treasure of my friends on small issues.

No matter how hard you were on me and it was very painful for me to bear it and definitely it shattered my heart and my feelings and my future, but I failed to understand at that time that I was equally responsible for that incident by letting it go to that extent.

I don't want to blame you for anything and my apology is sincerely from bottom of my heart since I realized now that it was my ego that made me emotional and demanding which impaired my judgement and reasoning power. On one hand I was so concerned about it and yet I failed to listen to your side of story. 

I failed to understand the value of our friendship. I became very selfish and possessive in our friendship. My possession and my ego killed our friendship.

Now I have realized the real value of friendship and love by killing my possession and ego.

I am very content and peaceful after apologizing to you. I wish you best in your life and hope I did not hurt your feelings.

My ego is my biggest weakness and I am trying to get rid off it with the help of my old friends to whom I lost because of it.

I have realized the power of apology that kills our ego. When ego dies down, one gets free of negatives and always put efforts to build relationships free of selfish and possessive motives and strengthens long lasting loving, caring and sharing relations with friends and mankind.

It was only possibe after self-realization of own weaknesses and strengths. Once we know our weaknesses only then we can take action against it. We all dream to be heroes and our strengths endorse it but our weaknesses sometimes makes us villain instead.

Our biggest weakness is ego

Second biggest is lust for materialism

Third biggest is ignorance to our weaknesses

Our biggest desire is peace through love

Our second biggest desire is success through honesty

Our third biggest desire is to overcome our weaknesses.

Majority of us die with our desires and only minority of us fulfill our desires.

Only true knowledge from true teacher empower us to self-realization, of desires and deficiencies, which enable us to understand clearly our strengths and weaknesses. A true desire only drive us to push or pull out our weaknesses to fulfill our desires without any problem during our lifetime.

Those who want to be in peace through love successfully need to explore the true knowledge without getting trapped into unnecessary rituals and traditions.

There is no shortage of people who desire to be peaceful through love successfully but;

Unfortunately majority people who seek of peace through love either get trapped into false knowledge or false love. 

Rest is trapped in materialism anyway and they have no real desire to be peaceful, loveable and successful yet they pretend to be.

With Donna M Shepherd and 17 others.

A lie in a trusted relations

Most hurtful is a deceitful act of lie especially if you have great deal of expectation from that person.

We all care for someone special in our life and we expect the same in return.
Most important to us in early life are parent and friends. Later part in life is our partner, children and friends.

If any of above lie to us which is intentional and hidden for a while and when it is exposed then that is the end of our expectations from that relation. The relation may continue but that will be excluded from our entrusted relationship's list.

But on other hand it hurts the most and as long as this resentment is there neither we will forget the person nor forgive the person.

If we forgive somehow, relation will start healing again and may enter into list of our entrusted group.

But there are couple things that needed to be addressed here apart from past life memories which are of least interest to me.

Firstly are we fair in our expectations and if we are then may be that lie was circumstantial and may have a reason behind it with a feeling that the truth may hurt us.

Regardless of any rationale lie is a lie and no one can let it go without repercussions.

If we let it go then it means we have extraordinary strength and courage to forgive the person and this virtue is a divine virtue.

If we can not let it go, it means our expectations have been shattered and causes a long lasting resentment in our mind.

Just imagine if one of your entrusted person lie to you and you never bothered about it and you continue your trusted relation as if nothing happened. That shows it that you never expected anything anyway.

Moreover none of relations in this world are based on 100% truth. But if you feel that it is not true then most likely no-one will be in your entrusted relationship's list at the end.

Either a complete truthful person could be the one in your list but unfortunately no-one of such caliber exist on this earth except God.

So if you are completely truthful and expect the same in return, then only choice you have is to make God as your friend.

It is a separate issue that God may accept your friendship without you being completely truthful . Because He has ability to forgive those who even attempt to friends with Him.

So all worldly relations are based on trust on each other and being human we are ought to make mistakes and we ought to hide it simply to avoid the embarrassment or not to hurt the feelings of the person. But if the person knows that his/her partner has the ability to forgive or let it go then there is no reason for the person to hide his/her mistakes.